I’ve mentioned Amy Webb before, and her book Data: A Love Story.She recently gave a TED Talk on the same subject, which is pretty darn entertaining.) You’ve got to find non-clichéd ways to sound optimistic, funny, and charming in order to stand out; this is especially true for all guys and for older women.I hate to make generalizations, but it’s true demographically speaking.Webb's book, The Signals Are Talking: How Today's Fringe Becomes Tomorrow's Mainstream, about her near-future trends forecasting methodology was acquired by Public Affairs, an imprint of Perseus.
Making spreadsheets and crunching compatibility scores and creating fake profiles to meticulously study market behavior is hardly just letting the algorithm do its thing, you know?
Yes, it’s possible someone might be dismissive about your love of The English Patient (her example), but generally, if you annotate your media passions with something that shows a little wit or self-deprecation, or provides a window into your thought process, then you’re going to be able to win over those few skeptics, and your writing style will be a breath of fresh air compared to the many boring and boilerplate profiles out there.
The devil really is in the details; referencing specifics paints an emotional picture for the reader; it humanizes you; it makes strangers want to get to know you better.
I don’t think Amy would agree with me here; her spreadsheet approached worked great for her. But I’ve met and worked with oh so many singles for whom a list of qualifications has continually backfired.
At the end of her love story, Amy made this meticulous complicated number threshold and exactly ONE guy met her bar.