The three of us had never had an issue with our age, until men on these sites started to highlight it – be it in messages, in conversation, or in their lock-down filters for girls under 29.
And any of the men I am interested in have probably viewed my profile, discovered that I’m over 30, and clicked off.’ Said friend is 39, and beautiful.By end of week two, I had 62 ‘reasonable matches’ (people who were more than a 60% match).But this only happened because I extended the distance range to the whole of the US. With the men I did take a shine to, it felt like we had to take exams before we could actually obtain contact. Some of them may well have later fled to the Internet in the hope they’d find their wife: soft in character, tall, with model looks, joker, non-smoker, prays in tongues at least 45 minutes a day, preferably a virgin, never confronts but isn’t a pushover... I appreciate the need to have standards when it comes to finding a life partner, but not when we’re unwilling to look at ourselves, or the fear so clearly attached to so many requirements.Twenty years on from the launch of the first online dating site, Match.com, perceptions (and usage) of Internet dating have changed significantly.Much of the original stigma seems to be slipping away, and according to the Online Dating Association, online dating is now the most common way in which relationships in the UK get started.And too many had clearly not left the house for a while.It began to appear that choosing the ‘spirituality is important’ option was a limitation. And why wouldn’t e Harmony let me search through the men registered for myself?Over in London, it seemed my girls were having similar problems.‘I wish I’d burnt my cash and made a video of it on Instagram instead of waste my time on e Harmony,’ shared one friend.But I was slightly disappointed with the options I was being given: too old, too young; too invested in believing in ‘the one’ rather than the best ones.Too many were divorced and didn’t sound like they were healed from the last marriage.