Maybe you will stay together forever, but if not, chances are you are going to break her heart one day.If you have a savior complex this prevents you from ever hurting her.You try to make it very clear that you are not one of the "bad guys" that has treated her poorly in the past and broken her heart.You are one of the "nice guys," the genuine respectful guys who will treat her with great care.You may think that you are being this wonderful kind man, but actually it's you who are being the needy one.A savior complex is more about you than about her and is a subtle way of exercising control and making someone dependent on you.If you ever catch yourself trying to act the savior then you need to give yourself a slap.It's a horrible thing that can make your life hell and, even if it was a good thing, it never works.
The problem is that niceness and attraction are not the same, and in fact are often contradictory.
The only person who can ever save someone is themselves.
One of the main problems with trying to be a savior is that it puts you into the category of nice guy.
Do you think she needs your constant attention and support and do you love giving it to her? A savior complex is when you ride in as a white knight in shining armor to save the troubled girl from her otherwise horrible fate.
In other words, she's got problems, and you think that only you can solve them.