Communication and honesty are two of the most important parts of a relationship and not being open about any of this felt terrible.
I felt as if I was constantly lying, even if it was just by omission.
It takes both parties involved to be proactive about making the relationship a good one.
Random things will pop up that can cause strife or strain the relationship, but that’s all normal.
For example, you might say something like, “Remember I really didn’t want to go to that restaurant you suggested?I know it might have seemed as if I was being selfish, but the truth is my OCD made me believe that restaurant was contaminated and I didn’t want to put either of us at risk.I know it makes no sense, and I am working on fighting my OCD, but at that moment, I wasn’t able to move forward.” And perhaps one of the scariest questions: How will my significant other react?The relationship-based type of ROCD focuses on thoughts of being in the right relationship, or of actually being in love.The partner-focused aspect of ROCD is geared towards noticing and obsessing about your partner’s flaws; whether they be physical, intellectual, or personality based.With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, it seems like a good time to bring up the topic of OCD and dating.I’ve previously written about the heartache relationship OCD (R-OCD) can cause, and it’s certainly not hard to see how having obsessive-compulsive disorder can affect all aspects of dating.Reactions might range from the other person walking away to total acceptance and understanding.However for most people, my guess is it will be somewhere in between.Indeed, the presence of any illness can easily complicate relationships.Of course, each relationship comes with its unique issues, so there is no “one size fits all” playbook to handle the presence of OCD.