Be sure to take your time to get to know him, his family, his friends, his co-workers. There is never a good reason to rush a relationship -- especially if you have kids. His other social media profiles are really private. You're thinking things are going really well so far. Is he sleeping during the day and going out at night to fight crime? He sends 15 texts in a row when you don't respond right away. Time to send nine more just to make sure you're not missing them. attentive now, just wait until you meet in person.5. You're probably hoping he has a sexy, checkered past. In reality, he just doesn't want you to find out about his DUI.6. He knows better than to explicitly text, "I m so horne," or ask for pictures of your breasts, but he's . There's no way anyone showers or lifts that much, bro.8. You've had plans to meet up on multiple occasions, and something always happens. People are always checking him out when he walks down the street, but he hates the attention. Even if it's a really pretty dick, the odds that this guy is going to be a good husband are slim to none. He calls you "baby" within his first three messages.If not, Roberts says, "It's way more telling whether his attention is balanced in messages and on actual dates with you." 9. "Divorcees, in particular, often feel the need to divulge the details of their marriage," explains Davis.This could be a sign that their last relationship ended recently, and he might not be as ready to move on as he thinks. Roberts says many online daters make the mistake of mentioning an ex or a trait they didn't like in a past relationship in their profile.You're getting a glimpse of his baggage, she says, and everyone has baggage. He uses words like can't, won't, shouldn't, couldn't, wouldn't and don't. "Many people translate differently on the page from what they are in person," says Davis. "Language is often indicative of someone's true intentions, so over-sexualizing a public profile shows he isn't selective and may be one-track minded." Roberts agrees, saying that kind of profile is "basically flirting with anyone who finds him," which doesn't make a woman feel special.
So focus on the context and whether the "I" statements sound like bragging.
Or it may mean he likes ladies who enjoy getting dressed up and putting on makeup. If so, ask yourself if that's consistent with your lifestyle and what you're looking for in a match.8.
Before you write him off, Roberts advises looking at the rest of his profile. Most of his sentences start with "I." It can mean this man is completely self-absorbed.
He wants a woman who likes hiking, spending time with family, dogs (specifically his two black labs), nonfiction, the mountains over the beach, traveling abroad and trying new cuisines. Long lists "usually mean that your match has had a lot of bad experiences—and probably a terrible divorce—so he's looking to avoid these issues in the future," says Davis. A cousin of the previous red flag, an extensive list of negative declarations could show the dater is set in his ways.
In the end, however, Davis says it's perhaps the least egregious of the red flags. Still, you shouldn't necessarily steer clear of this man.