He must enter a business or profession and succeed at all costs, climbing the ladder of success and achieving an ever-increasing standard of living as proof of manhood.
It never occurs to him that he is supposed to "carry" his wife emotionally. If he pays his family's bills and is a loyal husband, what more could any woman ask for? Inevitably, these differing assumptions collide head-on during the early years of marriage. What gradually develops from that misunderstanding is a deep, abiding anger on Diane's part, and a bewildered disgust from John.
I’d say at least a couple of centimeters shorter, maybe an inch. He doesn’t send flowers, he doesn’t buy chocolates. But I’ve since established that beautiful young women don’t get whistled at either. Now, I’m a modern woman, and I like a lot of things about these modern men.
At least, he has the power to eradicate it if he cares enough.
She shuts him down sexually and undermines his relationship with the children.
To be sure, she can be a formidable opponent in the art of infighting.
Young John is out there competing like crazy in the marketplace, thinking his successes are automatically appreciated by the lady at home. This pattern has been responsible for a million divorces in the past decade.
To his shock, she not only fails to notice, but even seems to resent the work that takes him from her. The wife is convinced that her low self-esteem and her unhappiness are the result of her husband's romantic failures.