This type of artificial "contact" contradicts the process of meaningful interpersonal interactions (to be explained), which generates love and attraction.
To explain the problem, I need to first elucidate the ingredients for love and the meaningful interactions.
It is an artificial type because both rejection and acceptance by the daters are not about the rejection and acceptance of real persons, but of the imagined or perceived attributes of their categories. New computer technology has greatly expanded people's potential and freedom to communicate with one another, some of which may generate love and romantic relationships, but online dating/matching, at least in its current format, has restricted the freedom. "It is clear that online dating has at least two problems.
While in town so many now know her and she's told me his awkward it is when she runs into these previous men who's she slept with her boyfriend (some of them bunches of times) How can you take someone serious when they are "advertising" themselves in that way. The article does seem overly focused on drawing an irrelevant dichotomy between "face to face" and online interactions. Do people tend to "lean" on online match-making, and stop looking to meet other people socially, or do they use it to enhance their network of people they do things with. What is the effect or desirability of various delays - two weeks of messaging once or twice a week before arranging a date? The question is not face to face versus over the internet, the question is whether or not supplementing or beginning with over the internet is boon or a bust.
My problem is the majority of the people I know hanging around on dating sites are being ran through ie: experimenting with god knows who after being on so many dates.
I had a friend who went through numerous dates in a year...
The answer is that mostly they have the dysfunctional mind, with the emotional baggage of fear, anxiety or other mental conflicts and past hurts in interpersonal situations.
They fear experiencing invalidation from the target of attraction because they use superficial categories to define the self and others as well as to predict the effectiveness of their possible relationships, ignoring the affection messages from the real people who are attracted them.