But let us always remember that what is said in this room, or member to member, must be held in strict confidence.Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of our program ever reminding us to place principles above personalities. Let us all strive to maintain anonymity at the level of press, radio, television, films and the internet.In 1962 members Society of Medical Psychoanalysts lead by Irving Bieber published the results of a comprehensive study of 106 male homosexuals and 100 heterosexuals controls, both groups drawn from the patients in psychoanalysis clinics.This was not a one shot questionnaire, but one of the most in depth and authoritative studies of its kind ever done.By "extended family" we mean an aunt, uncle, in-law, step-parent, cousin, friend of the family, teacher, coach, another child, clergy We learn in SIA not to deny, that we did not imagine the incest, nor was it our fault in any way.The abuser will go to any length to shift the responsibility to the defenseless child, often accusing the child of being seductive.However, SIA is not associated with, and takes no responsibility for the sites that provided the link to this site or published this address, nor is it responsible for the content of their statements to the world.We are a spiritual, self-help group of women and men, 18 years or older, who are guided by a set of 12 Suggested Steps and 12 Traditions as borrowed from AA, along with some SIA Slogans and the Serenity a family member or by an extended family member that damaged the child.
As we come together for this support, sharing our experiences, strength and hope is essential.
The more gentle the assault, the more guilt the victim inappropriately feels.
We also learn not to accept any responsibility for the abuse, even if they occurred over a prolonged period of time. We in SIA share our experiences, common feelings and hopes.
We realize that we felt we had to protect our caretakers from this horrible secret, as if they were not participants.
We felt alienated from the non-abusive family members.