Crazy sex ads on Craigslist isn't news or a secret, and the Casual Encounters ads are commonly regarded as a reliable source of entertainment and titillation for parties and long days at the cube farm alike.Even more interesting -- for scientific purposes, of course -- is looking at how people are using the ads for sex and what they're up to. Using a very unscientific method of stat gathering, while relying on a tried-and-true knowledge of colloquial sex terminology and search-fu skills that cut like a knife, I set about data mining Craigslist Casual Encounters over a seven-day period -- and compiled an Excel spreadsheet that would make a Microsoft development team squirm, beg for mercy and then pass out.
It’s the fact that a guy won’t initiate oral without prompting, but will happily signal towards their dick, expecting oral action as a necessary precursor to penetrative stuff. When men do it, it’s a special effort worthy of high praise. I think a lot of it has to do with the way we talked about sex when we were all growing up.In relationships, the precedent is set, excuses are accepted, and blow jobs are regularly given. I’m not going to accept a total lack of oral from guys who expect to be given oral whenever they fancy it.When single, receiving oral doesn’t happen because you don’t get to that ‘intimate’ stage. I’ve started questioning why men aren’t going down. And I hope that these conversations will make my sexual partners realise that I shouldn’t have to ask – oral should be given freely, joyfully, and enthusiastically, because they actually to give me pleasure, rather than feeling obligated to.(NSFW Google document online here.) I mean, what girl doesn't want to know in which San Francisco neighborhood men think they're the best hung?Or which Bay Area city has the most golden-shower enthusiasts?It’s a small issue in the grand scheme of gender inequality. Oh, and just think about how much happier the world would be if there were more orgasms.It’s not as important as the gender pay gap, or rape culture, or honour killings. Fixing this one thing could make everything else a little bit better. Unless you like fellatio; then Mountain View's got your number -- or more accurately, your Craigslist connection.In a February 2007 analysis, found that the advertisers making the most of the powerhouse's traffic are looking for shoppers in Erotic Services and Casual Encounters (respectively), and taking a beating (of the nonsexual kind) in business supplies for sale and Web design.For some reason (ingrained sexism and the objectification of women, I reckon), men were seen as weak if they gave a woman pleasure rather than using women for theirs.This probably wasn’t helped by the total absence of men going down on women in popular culture.