No thought other than, nope, not what I think I like.Hair, eyes, skin color, height, weight all became your stats in a world where I had never used statistics to make my choice of who I might be interested in.I tried everything from tindr, to Jswipe, to grindr, to every other word that is missing an "e" in it.I made lots of matches, talked to lots of "interesting" men and even went on a fair number of first dates.You can't help, but think, "Damn, where have you been all my life? If by some crazy force of nature you guys do set a date and meet, chances are he is not who he claimed to be, or who you built him up to be.His confident demeanor is replaced with one that is far less interesting, and not having the phone as an easy buffer shows you a much different person than the one you thought you had been chatting with.
Sometimes you just don't know you're best angles, and sometimes you do, which is why I always say buyer beware when it comes to what you think you're getting online. I Don't Like Games And that's exactly what all these things are, games.However, the problem arises when you finally do get excited, but continue to keep swiping because why not? No One Was Ever Who I Thought They Were As you make matches, swipe past people and possibly converse you start to build an idea of who the person is on the other side of the phone.You create an ideal, and all of a sudden every little nuance becomes a bigger complexity to who that person is, and how they operate. He either starts creeping real hard, says something that throws everything off, disappears or just never decides to meet up.I was holding myself back, I was playing up certain parts of myself, and playing down other characteristics, all so I could be more "desirable." I became who I thought I was supposed to be, not who I was.I acted more way casual, and less emotional than I really am.However, after partaking in my own dating experiment, during which I went on one date every night for a week, and two dates on Friday, I finally reached my ultimate conclusion. I want to preface that for everything I say, I know there are a ton of people who will disagree, and have the relationships to prove it, but as I ventured into and out of the virtual dating sphere I found out a lot about myself.Additionally, I know my experiment might sound extreme, but I needed something extreme to happen for me to really give it up once and for all. I Was Bored If you've ever been on any of these apps, gay or straight, you know that most of your hunting, swiping and searching is done when you are bored.Focusing your attention on others as a way to not look in the mirror, and find what is truly wrong, hurting or uncomfortable at this moment in our own lives.It's really easy to think that when you find someone a lot of your issues will just subside or disappear, but the truth is until you start to work on you, you'll never be happy, coupled up or single.These other important attributes are what creates someone individuality, and takes them from being just anyone to uniquely them.If I didn't like what I saw, I was quick to swipe left.