That would mean I might run into one of them occasionally and see him look at my friend the same way he once looked at me.
Even if you're no longer with the person who you once thought to be the love of your life, how could you stomach that person being with your friend?
Regardless of how much each of you has moved on, there is always that bittersweet feeling of what could have been.
You don't want them back, but you don't want to keep being reminded of what could have been.
G., I am a 17-year-old girl and I'm going into my senior year of high school. My friend broke up with her boyfriend of 6 months about a month ago. Now that I'm working with this boy-maybe we can call him Jim-I'm starting to like him. He asked me to go to a movie this past weekend but I said no because I was so nervous and confused about what to do. There are no clear social rules about this but we can try to tease things apart and discuss some unwritten social rules and etiquette. After a month has passed I believe that you can consider dating him. If she is a close friend then I would suggest that you talk to her and let her know that you are considering dating her ex-boyfriend.
Maybe other girls wouldn't think it's a dilemma but to me it is. She didn't talk about it much but she seemed upset when it happened. I would like to go on a date with Jim but I don't want to upset my friend and I don't want other girls to get mad at me. I asked my mother and she said that I should write to you. There is, of course, no simple answer to your question about when and whether or not it is socially acceptable to date a friend's ex. If your friend and this young man broke up within the past week or so then I would suggest that it is too soon to start dating her ex-boyfriend. Second, how close a friendship do you have with this young woman?
However, the one thing that seems to be the unwritten rule among us is that we would never even consider dating our friends' exes. But now I realize this rule really needs more thought, because I believe there are two factors to consider before answering my girlfriend's Facebook question."Once loved" are the operative words here Too often, women become territorial, trying to mark our men as if past loves are actually possessions that we own for life.If you have moved on from this person, you really should not take issue with who they are with now.But there are two ex-boyfriends who hold a special place in my heart because even though I know it could never work between us, I recognize the impact we each had in each other's lives.I would be happy if they found new happiness, but it would be too odd if it were with a close friend of mine.You need to weigh the value of your friendship with the woman vs.the amount of love, commitment and investment you had in your relationship with your ex-boyfriend.And because they are familiar with all the dirt on him, they wouldn't touch him.However, if you and your ex didn't work out just because you just weren't right for each other and there was no real drama involved, what's the harm if your current girlfriend and someone you once loved end up together?In my experience, friends appreciate hearing directly from friends rather than learning sensitive information from others.If she is not a close friend then you do not need to discuss your dating plans with her. Third, how upset is your friend about the break-up?