Destructive habits can be physically and emotionally driven.
Is there some kind of payoff that seems to make you feel better for a time?
Read Gottman's book together as the first step of deepening your intimacy.
Dear Amy: I can't believe you actually suggested that an unimmunized baby should be in the presence of an unimmunized toddler at a holiday gathering. Dear Appalled: Many readers felt that I (and the pediatrician I quoted in my answer) downplayed the risk to the unimmunized baby.
Understand that many parents of three young children stop communicating meaningfully.
You don't mention your husband's fire or passion, relative to yours, but you two can recover through a deliberate practice of connection.
In his book, "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" (2015, Harmony), he and co-author Nan Silver outline practices that successfully married people undertake to keep their marriages strong.
Your fondness and respect for your husband gets you part-way there.
Sometimes you can tell in 30 seconds from looking over a person’s application materials (not necessarily because they’re terrible, but just because they don’t have the background you’re looking for, or they’re okay but not great compared to other candidates, or other things that don’t take days of pondering to figure out).
(April 5, 2017) (Sign up for our free video newsletter here A study from the Archives of Sexual Behavior looked at face-to-face and online cheating in dating relationships between men and women.
(April 5, 2017) (Sign up for our free video newsletter here Dear Amy: Many years ago, I started a musical group with two members of my extended family. One day out of the blue, "Keith" said, "I don't want to do this anymore," and quit. A short while later, I found out that he had joined another band and had taken our one remaining band member with him; this new group recorded a number of albums, toured part of the world and had critical success. Another question that I have asked myself: What should I do with my collection of instruments?
Perhaps you're still angry about this because you're mad at yourself for letting this stop you, musically.
But you literally have nothing to lose -- and much to gain -- if you communicated with Keith now. About two years ago I had an emotional affair with a coworker. The affair ended when I realized I wanted to stay with my family.