Recently, he and I made plans to have a friendly, totally platonic drink to celebrate my promotion.
He canceled the day of because his youngest daughter had hit her head and he’d spent the previous night in the emergency room.
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So this brings me to my first point: If you date a man with children, you can never expect to come first.
I’m a rational person, so I realize that a man’s children should and will come first.
But this creates a conflict because a woman wants to feel secure and wanted in a relationship, but if she demands greater importance than his children, then she comes off as an insensitive bitch.
Don’t assume she’s not free when her kids are home. If you’re interested and want to see her, ask her out. They have a dad, regardless of whether he is in the picture, in the can, or in and out of the mental hospital. But if you explicitly ask these details on the first or second date you will appear reluctant about dating a woman with kids.
If she prefers not to go out when her kids are home, or doesn’t like to hire a babysitter on school nights, she’ll tell you. If you’re out and she is paying for a sitter it is really nice if you get the check. Which you may be – but if you ask too fast, she will know.