When I was younger and in fantastic shape I dated a girl who was chubby. She moved away to attend a different school, and for years after I wished I'd quit my job to follow.Actually in my experience it make the relationship fantastic.We’re already the minority, and unfortunately, another aspect of social interaction that research finds is that more traditionally ‘attractive’ women are generally treated better and do better in a work environment.Sadly, when it comes to being a woman in this harsh, cruel world, looks really do carry weight.As we sat sipping coconut broth mixed with rice, I looked up and noticed three couples enter the restaurant, waiting for the hostess to return from the kitchen to seat them.
She was in town for the weekend from Boston, and I was treating her to shrimp stew, churros and the tales of my not-so-glamorous life in NYC.We tend to choose partners who are less gifted in the looks department, and that fact has actually proven to foster the most secure relationships.As Caracciolo affirms: Studies in the realm of attractiveness and coupling do tend to show that women in heterosexual relationships in which they are the more ‘attractive’ partner tend to have more supportive partners overall.I took this group in through my peripherals and noticed the ladies were all wearing sky-high stilettos and ultra-chic outfits.I also noticed their husbands were all shorter than they were; I wondered if it was because of the heels.Something suddenly dawned on me after a few seconds, something obvious and slightly disturbing.All of the women were beautiful, and all of their husbands were not. I’m not talking about a Donald Trump and Ivana Trump situation.I have before and pretty much ended up losing interest.I'd say it was 50% lack of attraction, 50% compatibility issues. I'm not really keen on doing that again, so I'm being a little more picky this time around... lets be honest, people use what positive traits they have that work and put in minimal effort.It is easy to just jump the cuff and think, “Oh, he must be rich” or “Oh, she must be really stupid.”That may be the case in some instances, but it certainly is not the case for all couples -- or even MOST couples.I myself have always dated men who are less attractive than myself. For me, I don’t rate looks that highly on the list of qualities that I find important in a partner.