Tessina says, noting that she and her husband had both gone through splits when they married 32 years ago."They have a more realistic picture of what it takes to have a successful relationship." This makes for a more grounded union, Dr. "When you get married a second time, your expectations are a lot lower." But that's a good thing because he's less likely to be disappointed."Men who are divorced enjoy companionship that they were familiar with having been married before," says La Pronda, 43, who's dated both never-married and divorced men."They don't shy away from a conversation about relationships, marriage, love and intimacy." Adds Bizzoco, "Even though his previous marriage didn't work out, dating shows he's willing to open himself up to love and that he's interested in something serious again." Men naturally want to "fix" things and problem solve, life coach and dating expert Brooke Lewis points out, which can translate into a post-divorce desire for a successful new relationship.) divorcés—to explain the many upsides to seeing a formerly married man.As a marriage unravels, "wives are pretty verbal about what they perceive their husbands did wrong," whether it be too much time at the office or being an awful communicator, says marriage and family therapist Rachel Sussman.If you're interested in someone who's divorced, you can easily pursue a happy relationship with this person as long as you keep some things in mind. A recently divorced person may be somewhat cautious. Work on feeling secure in yourself throughout the relationship.When it comes to family, and children, let your boyfriend decide when and how interactions will occur.
With any luck, "his ex taught him about the female body, what it takes to get a woman interested and how to give her an orgasm," he says.
Divorced men have the gifts of hindsight and feedback, which make them more attentive partners in their next relationships, Sussman says.
Lewis adds that she has actually seen this in her own dating experiences.
While there can be some red flags (like if his relationship ended because he was unfaithful), people who've been through a divorce tend to have a deeper, more realistic perspective on marriage than those haven't.
We asked experts—and women who've dated (and even married!