But most dating sites don’t let you off the hook with just your age, occupation, alma mater, and hometown.Oh no, profiles or “personal inventories” can take hours to fill out and write.And you start to feel guilty about saying “no’s”, especially to people whose intentions are good.And you start to consider saying more “yes’s” just to balance out the “no’s”, even when that’s clearly not the best idea. It is where you can be as honest (or not) as you’d like.” But if you’re the one writing it about yourself, it pretty much just feels super awkward.Basically, you’re trying to present yourself to complete strangers in a way that’s positive but not braggy, open but not overly vulnerable, attractive but not vain, confident but not cocky, etc. And of course, you have to select the perfect photos to match, since statistically your cover photo is what makes people actually “click on you” or not.I just did a Google search for some statistics, and this site says that over 41 million people in the U. But guys, I have to tell you — I just don’t think it’s my thing.
So if you’re active on an online dating site, you generally find yourself having to sort through yes’s and no’s every single day. And yes of course, it’s awesome and a total honor to have people interested in you.
But a little too often, you run across a profile or get an email from someone who gives you (the wrong kind of) goosebumps.
For example, one of my friends just told me about a guy who reverse-image-searched her on Match, and told her that he had tracked down where she worked. ) Another friend had a guy photoshop her headshot onto some p-rn.
That’s why I signed up, but the yes/no ratio was not in my favor.
And after turning down the 20th, or 50th, or 100th person who contacts you — even if you have full confidence that they are indeed “no’s” — it can start to wear on your heart in kind of a backwards way.