Just stop.) Conversations about emotional, future-centered topics need to happen once the relationship starts getting “medium” to “very” on the serious scale.
But if you are in the “not that serious” zone and you are talking about how the two of you are going to divide up the holidays with your families once you get married 10 years from now, you are playing with fire.
(Read: Christian Dating, Breakups, and 4 Tips to Help You Get Through It With God) Any breakup is going to hurt because all dating relationships have hope in them, and when hope is deferred the heart grows sick. I just wrote about this in great detail here, “How Far Is Too Far In Christian Dating? I get these two categories from 1 Corinthians 7:1-10. The trickier part will be to define what is an act rooted in sexual desire and what is an act that is simply a sign of affection. But one more that’s just too important not to mention is boundaries for your words and promises.
Emotional bonds commitment is what leads to broken hearts.
You should be able to share everything with your spouse because the two of you have made one of the greatest relationship commitments available on planet earth.
Proverbs says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.” If this doesn’t capture the tension in a Christian dating relationship I don’t know what does.
It brings immense joy when two people date and then have their “desire fulfilled” if they decide they want to spend the rest of their lives together.