They withhold their sexual favors while they are wooed by men.In the calculus of relationships, people figure out their own worth, and then effectively try to engage with someone of equivalent or better value.An evolutionary shift which will lead to another problem: a population explosion and the need for a new planet. —Boys learn to chase girls in high school and college.Those early teen experiences shape much of the way men think about relationships.For many men, they find themselves married, with children, a job and the game is over.Which begs the question: why are men so obsessed with twentysomething women? Buss is an Evolutionary Psychologist and author of The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating.He told me in an email that the findings of the study were "roughly" correct and that men are attracted to women who show cues of peak fertility (youth, beauty, symmetry), typically in the early to mid-twenties and usually centring on the age of 24. "Men in our evolutionary past who were attracted to infertile women are not our ancestors; they bit the evolutionary dust.
Do we simply go for the young twentysomething because she can give us children? Buss says some have argued that men are attracted to young women because they are easier to control.
They come to me and share their pain and concerns that they have to start dating again. It is much easier for a man in his 40s to find desirable dating partners of the female persuasion. You need only look at the numbers to figure out why.
This is when I get to share with them the good news. To begin with, there are more women than men in society.
It’s a notion backed up by Buss’ study of 37 different cultures around the world, which revealed kindness and intelligence as two traits that beat out ‘physical attractiveness’ in desires for a long term mate (alongside compatibility such as similarity of political orientations and religious views).
"Just as with food, we can choose to act on our desire or not to act on our desires.